Choose someone who is a good friend
If this person were not your lover, would you want them to be your friend?
Do you admire and respect how this person shows up in their other friendships? When the fires of passion comes down in your relationship when you’re sick when you’re recovering from a surgery or ailment when you’re stuck on a ridiculously long road trip together, can you appreciate the friendship you have with this person?
Flirting and romance is a slice of the pie of relationship. Friendship with the other person is, perhaps, an even bigger slice.